Car Alarms: car alarms problems, car alarms, starter wire

Question
remote started stopped working, so i was told to disable the system by turning the ignition and flicking the valet switch, but that didn't work. now my car would start and i can't find anyone in my area that can remove the system or even tell me if there is a fuse that i can just pull out.  i was told i have to buy a new one to replace the old one, but my car is so old its not worth a new one, please help me locate something so i could at least start the car is been in my drive way for a month.
car type is  a 98 Honda civic.

thanks
Haddy
RALEIGH, NORTH CAROLINA

Answer
The valet switch operation can vary from manufacturer to manufacturer, but most will respond when turn the ignition to the run position then flip the switch.

Here is a generic how to on alarm removal that might offer some assistance as well:

Typically an alarm system would be installed on the driver's side interior of the vehicle.  This system would have been tapped into the ignition switch wiring running down from the key.  If you remove the dash panel(s) under the steering column you should be able to locate where the harness was added that goes to the alarm.  Disconnect each wire that was tapped in and insulate the factory wiring.  You will also see that at least one of the wires was cut, this is the vehicle starter wire that runs from the key to the starter.  This wire needs to be restored, I always recommend soldering all connections but crimp connectors should also work.  Make sure that you remove all connections to the alarm and that any wires that may be exposed are insulated and mounted in a way that they will not interfere with any moving parts and do not run the risk of shorting out.  Remember to take your time and follow each connection running from the brain of the system, leaving one wire connected that you are unsure of the function could cause problems in the future so be sure to remove every wire.